Me and You [continued]

While experiences at each end of the spectrum can be intensely gratifying for me, most times I tend to more emotional engagement, whether my lover is a longtime personal friend or whether they are new in my world but intentional in building rapport and allowing our chemistry to develop organically over the course of our date.

Intuitively, I bring my whole self to the bedroom. I don’t hold anything back. What develops in the moment, and how I express myself physically, is an unscripted play that evolves differently in every encounter (I’d say ‘in every performance’, but I’m emphatically not a performer; I’m just myself, my whole self.)

So, if you’re to be my lover, the version of me that you get will be unique, unlike any other lover’s experience of me. What transpired for us will be the result of the combination of our personal chemistry and desires. Will you imagine, for a moment, how excited this makes me for each new meeting?

Another aspect of my life – one that readers of this blog may be curious about – is how my attitude to matters sexual and my experiences with my professional clients play out in intimate relationships in my personal life. You can imagine that to sustain a healthy relationship between a sex worker and their intimate partner requires a very high level of open communication and profound trust from both partners. Invariably there are challenges that can be overcome only with positive intention, determination, and unlimited compassion - also a deep sense of humour (but why else would you be in a relationship:). Really, these behaviors are no different to those that sustain any personal relationship, but in my world the challenges from clashing priorities and underlying insecurities are greatly amplified and so, therefore, is the work needed to meet them successfully.

My experience is that, sooner or later, we find that our reserves of one of the above essential qualities is insufficient to the challenge; the relationship becomes joyless, and thus ends. My best – most stable and long-lasting – intimate friendships have been with men and women who are unusually secure in themselves and in their attachment style, and for whom my non-monogamous lifestyle adds a sprinkling of the spice of sexual energy; who feel only compersion for my adventures and escapades, the interesting people I meet, and the luxuries that I enjoy as part of my job.

If your curious about how this all works for me, I love to talk about this and everything else in the world, so let’s connect!